“Always do what you are afraid to do.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Just met with a friend yesterday and talked to him about the future and his plans in the next 5-7 years. He is a stay-at-home father and has been doing so for the past three or four years now and is doing a great job. His wife is making a lot of money working for a large international organization, (The biggest out there in the world with two letters), however he seems to be going through some stress and even depressed. I thought why? He, his wife and daughter travel all over the world , Europe, Africa, Middle East, South America and I mean EVERYWHERE. A truly jet-setters life. However, he and his wife don’t seem 100% happy with their lives and it manifested in the way they talked to each other. From my point of view my friend is suffering from loneliness and lack of meaningful communication as a stay-at-home dad, which I had three years experiencing here in Japan. It’s great to talk and give full attention to your child everyday, but 15 hours or more of talking only about why rhinos have horns and how big is a Blue Whale’s load of poop, can get redundant after a while. Also, if your partner is not paying any attention to raising your child, but fully concentrated on his/her work, can be very frustrating if you have no work outlet of your own. I know the answer is not simple, but communication is the key. He needs to tell his wife how he feels and ask for more help and assistance raising their daughter. She needs to lighten her work load and tell him that she wants him to work more so that he is not always getting stressed out and depressed about his situation. I know it isn’t that simple, but a change in our own thoughts can have a profound effect on the environment and people around us. Don’t let fear or change dictate the life you want to live. I have been there and I know how he is suffering without someone to hear him out. We all have to change and create the life or lives we want to live. Starts with us and a little communication, even if it seems impossible for us to make the first move.