Honest Communication

Honest and Fun Communication from the boys at Wong Fu productions…

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Let’s not talk, let’s communicate!

“Always do what you are afraid to do.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Just met with a friend yesterday and talked to him about the future and his plans in the next 5-7 years.  He is a stay-at-home father and has been doing so for the past three or four years now and is doing a great job.  His wife is making a lot of money working for a large international organization, (The biggest out there in the world with two letters),  however he seems to be going through some stress and even depressed.  I thought why?  He, his wife and daughter travel all over the world , Europe, Africa, Middle East, South America and I mean EVERYWHERE.  A truly jet-setters life.  However, he and his wife don’t seem 100% happy with their lives and it manifested in the way they talked to each other.  From my point of view my friend is suffering from loneliness and lack of meaningful communication as a stay-at-home dad, which I had three years experiencing here in Japan.  It’s great to talk and give full attention to your child everyday, but 15 hours or more of talking only about why rhinos have horns and how big is a Blue Whale’s load of poop, can get redundant after a while.  Also, if your partner is not paying any attention to raising your child, but fully concentrated on his/her work, can be very frustrating if you have no work outlet of your own.  I know the answer is not simple, but communication is the key.  He needs to tell his wife how he feels and ask for more help and assistance raising their daughter.  She needs to lighten her work load and tell him that she wants him to work more so that he is not always getting stressed out and depressed about his situation.  I know it isn’t that simple, but a change in our own thoughts can have a profound effect on the environment and people around us.   Don’t let fear or change dictate the life you want to live.  I have been there and I know how he is suffering without someone to hear him out.  We all have to change and create the life or lives we want to live.  Starts with us and a little communication, even if it seems impossible for us to make the first move.

Are you using red chalk?

 

Have you even been in a situation where your co-worker or your boss steps in on you without rhyme or reason, just to micro-manage the hell out of you?  Like Lisa Nichols says, “Give me a YES,YES!”  Well, my story starts with me teaching English to my Japanese junior high school students, when all of a sudden, the assistant vice principal Ms. O, yes they have assistant vice principals in Japan, as if one vice principal wasn’t enough, barges into the middle of my class to tell me something I was doing blatantly wrong.   What was you ask?

“Lee Sensei, you’re using red chalk!  Don’t use red chalk.  Some students can’t see the red chalk on the board.”

I thought to myself, what the f$%king hell?!  “She interrupted my class just to tell me not to use red chalk.  Then why the heck do we even have red chalk in the first place and in EACH classroom?!”  Funny thing is the next week she commented on how my fluorescent yellow undershirt was too bright underneath my white work-shirt.  Wow!  You have too much time or your life is sooooo boring that you have to find something to knit-pick about your F–KIN CO-WORKERS, not your STUDENTS Ms. O!!  School or the concept of it is not a real place but actually a stage or contrived experiment in human socialization.   It’s one I’d like to change, improve and to make it a more efficient well-spent six years of our lives. 

Then I remembered the wisdom from all the great self-help gurus like Wayne Dyer, Lisa Nichols and Tony Robbins.  Every and I mean every good or bad experience serves as a mini-lesson about something in life.

My lesson was to avoid wearing fluorescent undershirts to work and to ignore people who care too much about such things.  Avoid psychopathic, power-control obsessed people because they are like vampires just waiting to feed on anyone who gives them an inch.  Don’t be tomorrow’s lunch. 

All things come to PURPOSEful end.

 

Two years.  That was how long I was teaching at one of my favorite junior high schools.  It all finished today.

Today answered the question (or questions), what if today were last moment on earth and you had to depart to heaven, what would it look like?  I taught the song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” by Bobby Mcferrin in my last two classes and I sang and poured my heart out with my students and I thanked them for trying so so hard to learn English this past year.  I said as many thank yous and goodbyes in English and in Japanese as I could.  All day, I was filled with a sense of happiness and deep deep gratitude for everyone around me.  That is how I would like to leave this world, with a sense of happiness and gratitude for this amazing life that I have lived.

Now I’m not ready to move on to where my ancestors are  yet, because I still have a lot to accomplish in this life and a whole lot of people I want to serve and help.  If you’re feeling the same way I do, please leave me a comment or tell me how you feel.  How would your last day on this beautiful plane we call earth?  Who would be around you?  What would you tell them and how will they remember you?  Thank you.  Thank you very much for this day. 

Renewal and Rebirth

Aloha, Konnichi wa, and Hello,

Ikumendojo has been a great blog and a great opportunity to express my thoughts on life and fatherhood, but that is not my focus right now and the blog has been Renamed, Refocused and Reborn. Like the mythical Phoenix that rises out of the ashes of its former self, Purposelee strives to be a better platform and an instrument of purpose and of service.

I forgive myself today.

 

“Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. It frees you from the past, past experiences, and past relationships. It allows you to live in the present time. When you forgive yourself and forgive others, you are indeed free. There is a tremendous sense of freedom that comes with forgiveness.

Often you need to forgive yourself for putting up with painful experiences and not loving yourself enough to move away from those experiences. So love yourself, forgive yourself, forgive others and be in the moment. See the old bitterness and the old pain just roll off your shoulders as you let go, and the doors of your heart open wide. When you come from a space of love you are always safe. Forgive everyone. Forgive yourself. Forgive all past experiences. You are free.”   –Lousie Hay (Inspirational Speaker and President of Hay House Publishing and Media)

I forgive myself for…

I forgive my past…

I forgive the person who…

I forgive.  To be the amazing and successful person who I want to be tomorrow.  Starts with forgiveness today.

Did you live Extra-ordinarily today?

 

So what does living everyday EXTRA-ordinarily look like?  Is it jumping off a cliff and riding the wind currents in a wing suit or is it as humbling as helping someone in need, who really needs to talk?

Yesterday (March 15th) was one of those days.  I had one of my last classes for my junior high school students, and yes I am proud of being a teac…, sorry a facilitator of learning commonly misunderstood as a “teacher”.   It was a surreal moment, because I was saying goodbye to them for the last time and it was the last team-taught lesson for my Japanese English teacher and me.  Now don’t get too agitated if I say this, but it was like I was saying goodbye on my last moments on this earth.  I gave my best effort and energy to leave a lasting impression on my students.  We learned and sang Bobby Mcferrin’s, ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy”.  It was really fun and much more than my normal conversation classes, dare I say a little… Extra-ordinary?  It didn’t stop there, but I gave a rather expensive how-to-teach ESL to my team-teacher Mr. A.  He was really grateful and cried at the conclusion of the class.  It was unexpected and some of the students were looking and wondering why he was crying.  Tears of gratitude and closure for our two years of hard work I gathered.  His tears and yet another teacher’s tears humbled me when I told her that I was finishing at the end of this March.  I am grateful to all my students and teachers that I worked with at my junior school.  You have shown me how to live in gratefulness and how to be Extra-ordinary today.